Feeling is believing
Posted on September 12 2016
”When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” Maya Angelou
I was once having snacks with a friend. We sat, chatted, laughed and I asked if I could have some almonds from his plate. He jokingly responded, “I’m not really the sharing type”. I sensed that he was actually being honest. Another time, I was speaking to said friend about something that I don’t recall the specifics of. What I do recall is that he mentioned jokingly that he didn’t really “play well with others in the sandbox”. Again, I had a feeling that he was right. My grandmother used to say that underneath every joke is an ounce of truth. I believe that underneath every word uttered is an ounce of a person’s true character.
There are people who try very hard to hide who they truly are from others but most people are easily readable or as I prefer to say, “sense-able”. There are people you meet and immediately feel a connection with and then there are others with whom no matter how much you try, you can’t seem to shake the feeling of disconnectedness. Do not ignore this feeling. One important life lesson I’ve been lucky to experience is that it’s never really about what I think of the people I meet, it is however, always about how I feel. So far, my feelings haven’t led me astray.
Words and actions reflect different elements of what’s happening both on the conscious and subconscious levels of a person’s psyche but there is a deeper level of intuition and feeling that most people don’t even tap into. Why is it that a bride will still go through with a wedding even as she feels a horrible sense of dread and doom on the day that is supposed to be the happiest day of her life? Why is it that people go through with business deals even when they sense that they’re making a huge mistake?
When someone tells you that they’re broken or incapable of love or selfish or that they get angry easily, you believe them. When you sense that a job opportunity isn’t what it seems to be, you trust your gut. When someone tells you that they can’t give you what you’re looking for, you say thank you and walk in the other direction. When you sense that someone has no honor or integrity, it is your responsibility to give credence to that feeling. You don’t recognize that feeling of doubt and choose to continue. You don’t make excuses for people or about the situation and you definitely don’t retreat into a state of denial.
“There is a voice that doesn’t use words. Listen.” Rumi
Common sense and intuition –two of the greatest gifts ever given to mankind. They are like muscles, the more you use them, the stronger they become. We are often reminded to use our heads but in focusing on our thoughts, we ignore how we feel. Our ability to sense and to know from a place that isn’t touched by mind is truly a phenomenal potential but it will remain a potential unless we tap into it and allow it to work for us.