How to be a better person today
Posted on May 11 2015
We spend so much time thinking about the past. We spend a lot more time thinking about the future. If this had only worked out, we think. If this could only work out, we hope. Eventually, time blurs. Our regrets and disappointments of yesterday mix in with our fears and anticipation of tomorrow. Time blurs and we miss out. We miss out on the one thing that actually matters –NOW.
“Nothing has happened in the past; it happened in the Now. Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now.” Eckhart Tolle
1. Be present
I was at a Damien Rice concert a few weeks ago. As I took in the gorgeous view of the Greek Theater, I watched as so many people rushed in late for the show; I watched as they recorded the entire concert on their phones, their eyes glued to the tiny screens in front of them while completely missing out on the grand and beautiful moment happening just beyond. I watched as they rushed out of the theater before the show was over, missing out on a glorious encore. All so that they could avoid a little traffic on the way out. If we’re not careful, we will be a generation that will be remembered for documenting life instead of living it.
“If you have nothing else to give, give a smile.” Yogi Tea
2. Be kind
It’s amazing that in this day and age, we’re still running around trying to buy our way to fulfillness. We forget that everything that we really need in this journey has been made available to us completely free of charge. Hope, Compassion, Kindness, Love –they have all been there since the beginning of time. These are the currencies that our world should be running on but we’ve decided to write numbers on expertly cut pieces of paper and call them valuable. Be kind, to yourself and to others. Hold your tongue when you can; hold your tongue especially when you feel like you can’t. Give a smile, give a compliment. Go out of your way, just a little for someone else. Words are powerful, so are actions. Be compassionate, be kind.
“I remind myself every morning: Nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So if I’m going to learn, I must do it by listening.” Larry King
You’re always going to learn more from listening than talking. Even if you don’t like what you’re hearing, at least you’ll learn not to listen to that person again in the future. That being said, we can all learn a lot from each other. Each of us has a story to tell, a story worth listening to. The problem is that we’re all so busy in our self-created bubbles that we don’t even realize the amazing connections we’re missing out on. When was the last time you actually listened? To your spouse, your co-worker, your child? As the other person is talking, we’re barely looking at them. All we can think about is what we’re going to say next. We are so afraid of pauses and silence that we need to fill them quickly with words. What we forget is that beautiful things happen in moments of silence. For that split second, when you’re not trying, the person you’re talking to actually hears you; most importantly they see you, and you see them too.