Posted on May 30 2016
Life is made up of moments, small pieces of glittering mica in a long stretch of gray cement. It would be wonderful if they came to us unsummoned, but particularly in lives as busy as the ones most of us lead now, that won’t happen. We have to teach ourselves how to live, really live…to love the journey, not the destination. Anna Quindlen, A Short Guide to a Happy Life.
They say life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans but I say life is what happens when you’re waiting for life to happen. So many of us spend so much time waiting on a better moment than the one we’re in. We’ve convinced ourselves that we’ll finally be happy when that moment arrives. We wait for our lives to start and tell ourselves that things will be better when we have a new job, take a vacation, get married, have kids, buy a house, get divorced, save up the perfect amount of money to travel… the list goes on.
Nothing is ever perfect. If there is one thing life guarantees us, it’s that we will always face challenges. There will never be a time when everything is absolutely “perfect”. Talk to a famous actor, athlete or musician and they’ll never say that they have the perfect life. They do everything that they can to “make it” and then realize that “making it” comes with it’s own set of problems. From higher taxes to fake friends, loss of privacy and intense public scrutiny, even the strongest characters find it difficult to adjust.
Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment. Eckhart Tolle
You are here, now, having this experience because this is what you need. Don’t fight it, don’t ridicule it, don’t diminish it. If you resist it, it will persist. If you ignore it, it will linger until you acknowledge it. If you choose to completely remove yourself from the moment and wait for a better one, it will return in another shape or form until you learn what you were meant to learn in the first place.
No past or future moment will bring you lasting happiness. No two moments are the same. If you miss what you have now, it can never be exactly as it was. There are so many beautiful moments happening in the midst of our journey whether we choose to acknowledge them or not. I used to wait for the big moments; I’ve gotten better at just being in the moment –both big and small.
Why do anxiety, stress, or negativity arise? Because you turned away from the present moment. And why did you do that? You thought something else was more important. One small error, one misperception, creates a world of suffering. Eckhart Tolle
The routine of talking to my little sister via Facetime before bed every night brings me such bliss. So does listening to jazz on a Friday night in a half empty restaurant. The smell of fresh bread brings a smile to my face, so does the first whiff of autumn. I have felt no stronger feeling of calm and happiness as when I stroll down the streets of Paris after dinner or watch the sunset by the river Seine.
Today, as I put together my weekly flower arrangements for my apartment, there was a moment when I realized that I needed nothing else than what I had in that moment. Not only that, everything that I was doing, seeing and feeling in that moment counted for something. Every petal, every bud, every sound of a breaking branch –it all mattered. This was it. There was nothing more to wait for.