The danger in trying to keep up...
Posted on July 10 2016
Who are you trying to keep up with these days? In the early to mid 2000s, I remember watching shows like MTV’s Cribs and VH1’s The Fabulous Life of… I recall the endless lists of things, services and places that the featured celebrities apparently had access to. Every single episode was designed to fuel judgement on your self worth. These people were living a much bigger and much more privileged life than you. In essence, their lives were better than yours.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.” Eleanor Roosevelt
These days, you don’t need flashy magazines and absurd television programs to show you the many ways in which your life doesn’t measure up to others. You have Facebook / Instagram / Snapchat for that. Gone are the days of graduating from high school or college and never giving a second thought to the people who added little or no value to your life. Now you’re Facebook friends. You don’t have real conversations with them, your profiles and feeds are just there as reminders of how much better or worse your lives are in relation to the other person.
#Goals #RelationshipGoals #SquadGoals #LifeGoals
Worshiping, idolizing and comparing other people’s lives to our own, that is the reality these days. It’s prevalent in groups of 13 year old girls as it is in groups of 40 year old men. News flash, there will always be someone more beautiful, skinnier, richer, taller or smarter than you. Show me the person who has everything and I’ll find you someone who has just a little bit more than that person.
“Statistically, the probability of any one of us being here is so small that you’d think the mere fact of existing would keep us all in a contented dazzlement of surprise.” Lewis Thomas
It is an insult to who you are at your core to think that you are in any way, shape or form less than anyone else out there. Your journey is individual and unique and nothing about it is an accident. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you can start to embrace the magic brewing underneath every piece of your life puzzle.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt
The fact is that we all live curated lives online and even sometimes offline. No one really shares every single thing that is happening in their real lives without some sort of filter over it. I remember a photographer friend mentioning to me that when he first started building his portfolio, he would reach out to potential models via social media. He found it quite odd that some models would ask him for a ride to the shooting location. After all, these were girls who were posing in thousand dollar clothes and accessories online but their reality clearly didn’t reflect their filtered social media lives.
There is no perfect life out there. A lot of us are just doing the best that we can with what we have. Be brave, look forward and run your race to the best of your ability. There is no one else who can run that race –and that is precisely why you were chosen to do it.